If you think your life is complicated or messed up, you’re probably on the right page. Life is unfair but beautiful as well. It is worth living, as it gives a spectacular experience of a thrilling rollercoaster ride throughout your life. Living it now might be seemingly hopeless for some people but, you cannot come to a conclusion as you haven’t reached the end yet. At the end of the ride, you’re definitely going to love it and realize, “life is hell of a thrilling and hair-raising ride.” The experiences you garner throughout your life would make you realize that life is worth-living. Life doesn’t mean to hit you with all best experiences, there would be some bad and worse ones as well. That’s why it’s a rollercoaster ride. Making mistakes is absolutely expected and normal in your life, well life doesn’t come with user manual. It’s you, me and us who make it complicated. Yeah! That’s right. It’s human nature, to think and overthink gradually to overcomplicate and make things complex when, it can actually be simplified and resolved. Okay, we will come to that later. Complications, problems, issues and crisis will be there in everyone’s life, they are inevitable, complication arises when we react towards it either positively or negatively. So, the problem is not the complication itself, it’s about us, how we are reacting to our issues and how we act towards it. Now, let’s get to the list of the ways to stop complicating your life and help you living it well:
- Stop expecting anything from anyone at all
Half of our life issues get more complicated due to over expectations or imaginary expectations made by us, from others and our life. Expecting is nothing bad, it means no harm, but when things don’t meet your expectations and go accordingly as you expect, you get disappointed and stressed. You tend to overthink, why it didn’t happen like you wanted, you make imaginary assumptions, get to the negative conclusions that fills your mind with all negative emotions, feelings and energy which slowly complicates your situation as well as your life.
- Don’t try to change people, change yourself
When expectations hurt you, you get disappointed with yourself, with your life and other people as well. When you think that about a specific person, and the expectations from him/her doesn’t satisfy you, you overthink and feel disgust about that person. Sometimes, that negative feeling gives rise to verbal fights and arguments and hence wish and try to change that person. Now, do you think, that’s the solution. Because, again someday you gonna expect something from someone else or that same person and you feel disappointed for nothing but your false expectation. Instead, change yourself, stop expectation, stop overthinking, be logical and practical and make things simple.
- Focus on things that are under your control
Things that you cannot control or fix are useless to achieve your focus. It just distracts you from your present, makes you live in negative emotions and feeling, makes you overthink and complicate things even. If you can’t help it, let it go, and focus on things that you can fix, figure out and control and even resolve with ease to achieve some mental peace and a reason to be happy.
- Stop carrying your negative baggage
Everyone has a past full of traumatic experiences, failures, sadness, heartbreaks, and many more. So, we are all in the same boat. And if you think, your boat is sinking, don’t worry, we are all sinking together. However, we are not. Bad experiences, negative emotions, traumatic past doesn’t mean we would live with it, rather learn from it and live further either by resolving it or by learning from it. So, your present must not be affected by your negative baggage from the past or even that are few moments old. If you’re furious, disgusted, disparaged, and suffered by some people, finish it at that moment, whatever you are capable of doing. Close that matter and advance forward in your life with a clear mind and with positivity which is one of the best ways to stop complicating your life.
- Learn to say “NO”
Some people are there who find it hard to say “NO” to people under some circumstances and because of their empathetic nature. If you don’t say “NO” you would suffer, so crying and being sorry for your yourself is of no use. Either learn to say “NO” to those requests for extra work, help, favors that goes beyond your curtesy and needs extra effort that interferes in your personal life, or accept it that you can never say no and would keep complicating your life like this.
- Avoid toxic people as much as you can
Toxic people are full of negative and they resemble the media a little bit. They bring you world’s every small to large variety of worthless news, information, opinions, remarks, views and empty gossips that only feeds on your time and of course your attention. Toxic people are no good, rather they fill your mind with negative emotions such as anger, envy, frustration, panic, lust, greed and even make you low as a personality. They complicate your lives in front of you, and you just go with the flow. And you say, your boat is sinking?
- Avoid binging news channels or pages
As I said unnecessary news and information showed and broadcasted by media is not all true. There might be some facts, but watching those continuously stock up your mind with fear, panic, unnecessary worries, stress, anxiety which makes you overthink and even think that doesn’t really matter.
- Stop being materialistic
Another way to stop complicating your life is quite logical. Life is short and clear. You step onto this world with nothing and would leave with nothing as well. Survival is important and getting belongings and stuff is just for better survival which makes your life easy to live and thrive. But, being attached to materials, belongings and stuff is of no use, it creates empty feelings and emotions in you for which you get hurt. For an example, you bought an amazing diamond earring and it got stolen somehow and to retrieve it you go beyond every odd which might either end up in losing your life or losing most of your savings and finance which is absolutely worthless. You can try once, going buy the book to retrieve it but, sticking to it forever and blindly seeking for it, only complicates your life.
- Communicate transparently
Another solid factor for which most of the people’s life are complicated these days is lack of communication. If you have an issue with someone, even your spouse or a friend, talk to them. Sit and communicate where things went wrong. What can be done about it to fix the problem? People become so self-oriented that they choose their ego over virtue. Your own morality something that you don’t know or try to know. You might hold on to your ego, but deep down you know it’s wrong. Or even if you don’t know it, it’s better to learn now. Communication makes thing simpler and fixes all your problems. Opinions, viewpoints, ideas, remarks all get clear and things get less complicated.
- Stop being sorry for yourself
Stop acting like you’re a victim. You’re not. Stop beating yourself up and stop whining over your bad experiences and mistakes. No more excuses, no more being sorry. Life is really hard but not that hell of a bad. If you dwell on negative experiences, you will become a miserable person that nobody wants to be around. Eat well, sleep well, exercise, tune into your favorite track, get fit and be happy. Stop complaining and whining, rather get up and live your life for yourself and people who love you and want you.
- Never care for what people think
People mostly don’t act or express their real nature and behavior as they fear of getting judged. Their actions, words, thoughts and expressions get remarkably affected as they fear, people will think negative of them or judge them which would affect their image socially. Caring what people think is useless, they don’t have any specific role in your life, rather thinking about yourself, how doing something would make you feel, or achieving something would bring you happiness and satisfaction is important. Doing this, you make your life quite easy and happy which is one of the effective ways to stop complicating your life.
- You want happiness, work on it
Happiness is not a magic pill; you don’t get it at stores or they don’t just come to you like that when you want it. It is how make your life to be happy. Happiness is the result of your action and response. Your behavior, your attitude, your thoughts and actions all contribute to your own happiness. If you want happiness in your life, as you have a boring life, with a boring partner, stop complaining and being helpless about it. Make it happen, find things for yourself or both of you to be happy, do whatever you actually want to do. But your effort is what it takes.
- Stop procrastinating
Complicating your life is not always inside your mind and morality, some practical habits can make it worse too. Complete your tasks on time, make a routine to follow, strictly stick to the plan and work accordingly. Stop being lazy or being laid back, avoid distractions and work efficiently. Complete your goals and tasks before the deadline but without procrastinating. Procrastinating often causes stress, anxiety, confusion and frustration that obviously makes your life complicated.
- Accept your present
Present is what you live in. Accept it. Live with it. Nothing is perfect neither permanent. If your life is messy, well it’s not bad, it’s because you need to learn from it and the fact is your present moment doesn’t take it long to become your past. Accept situations, adapt to them and find ways to make things easier for you rather making them more complicated.
- See positive in everything, even in negative
Positivity is important in life to move on and on. You cannot always stick to negative emotions and feelings and expect your life would be less or no complicated. Find positive outcome in everything, change your perception, make your thoughts more flexible and avoid negativity. It tough, but not impossible.
- Do what you love actually
Being happy and satisfied in your life, can remarkably make your life less complicated. Even better. Instead of being a crying baby, do what you love, yet a beautiful way to stop complicating your life. Follow your passion, cook, paint, go on a long bike ride, write a book whatever it takes, do it and make your life easier. You deserve it.